Day 22 - Self-sabotaging thoughts and what to do about them!

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Have you ever heard of someone self sabotaging to avoid a successful outcome?

According to Pyscology Today: Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common self-sabotaging behaviors are procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol and comfort eating. 

"These acts may seem helpful in the moment, but they ultimately undermine us, especially when we engage in them repeatedly," the article continues.

Whether it's lose weight, get sober, start a business or anything else, you have the power to tell those self-sabotaging thoughts or limiting beliefs to bug off. You deserve to have a clear path to achieve and realize your dreams.

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Here are some common thoughts associated with limiting beliefs.

  • I'm not worth the success that would come by reaching this goal.

  • I can control my life where it is - the way I know it - if it stays the same. 

  • It's too much work to change.

  • My idea is crazy.

I've been having some crazy nightmares lately. Nightmares where I'm getting rejected at every turn. Dreams where I'm literally forced to move backwards (as in drive backwards on the interstate!) And I wake up thinking "hmm. That was weird." 

I really do think it's my subconscious sending me messages to not fear things like rejection or change. And to encourage me to keep making forward progress on my goals no matter what. And to be aware of self-sabotaging behavior so I don't go down that path.

So what have I been doing to combat these crazy dreams and, potentially self-sabotaging thoughts? 

  • I replace negative thoughts with positive images. 

  • I say affirmations. 

  • I pray. 

  • I create vision boards and write down my goals. 

  • I visualize my goals and see my success as it unfolds.

And, if you've made it this far I'm telling you now that one of my biggest dreams is to grow 100 Days to a huge, vibrant and thriving community full of women supporting other women to enjoy an alcohol-free lifestyle. I want to write for parenting publications to prove that mommy juice and wine memes don't need to be a standard in parenthood. I want to write a book or secure speaking opportunities and podcast interviews to share my story and try to inspire others to go after their dreams. I hate putting myself out there, but this is what I'm doing because I'm not going to self-sabotage my dreams and live in the shadows of "what if?"

What big dreams do you have? And how can you get those limiting beliefs to scram so you can live your best life? Day 22 of Sober October. :-)

No more Monday morning anxiety on Sundays!

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I enjoyed such a great weekend with friends and family. I sure do complian when things are stressful so I need to also take time out to share when things seem to go right.

I used to have a tremendous weight on Sundays evenings because of a former public relations client.

A pit in my chest. Nervous about anything and everything.

  • What barrage of crazy emails would I have flooding my inbox on Monday morning?

  • Or what unexpected new and out-of-the-blue projects would be placed on my shoulders at work because of someone else’s problems?

One of my former clients used to call me “the miracle worker” - I was always someone’s go to person to clean up projects or get things done and I was proud of that nickname.

But now, I have let that client go and it has made ALL the difference in my attitude, perspective and motivation to try new things. I have more energy to spend with my children and the energy to dig into new and exciting ideas. I’m more concerned about being a “miracle worker” for my own family and passions!

I feel so free and excited for Monday!

I have:

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I don’t say yes to anything and everything. I’m no longer looking for gold stars from those who don’t matter. And I’m sharing this because I know how hard it is to hold on to something that is comfortable - but that IT IS possible to take chances and let go of things that no longer serve you - whether it be a habit, a client, a friendship or a commitment.

What goals do you have for yourself and what things are you willing to let go of to get closer to your dreams?